Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Divorce

Divorce is such a difficult thing to have to go through. At the moment my sister is going through a terrible divorce and it is affecting the whole family, me included being that I'm her sister and that she counts on me for a lot of things and when she's hurting so am I, but I am concerned about the children, they are hurting so much. My sister's children are all teenagers and young adults and people seem to say "at least they're not little kids, they're older now" -- like teens can handle it better and I think just the opposite. At least when kids are young they have time to adjust to things after a divorce, they're not so "used" to having both parents around; when they are teens they are already going through so much turmoil in their heads that a divorce just exacerbates their young lives. I mean divorce for children at any age is not a good thing, but I'm thinking being a teenager and going through that is much harder. Have you been through a divorce? How and when did you start to heal from it? And how did the kids take it? I'd really love to hear your experiences.

2 comments:

LilysGramma said...

I went through my divorce about 16 years ago. I took me about 2 years to get past everything, but about a year before things started to feel at least sort of normal again. My kids did suffer, they were 6 and 9 at the time, but their dad and I remained friends and he is very active in their lives still, that helps soo much!. Time does heal all wounds. Your sister is lucky to have a supportive sister like you are. I didn't really have the support of my family, so perhaps her journey will be faster. As for the children, they will adjust sooner than you think, as children do. As long as their father stays in their lives, things will be ok for them. Blessings to you, your family and especially your sister and her children.

itsthedogslife.com said...

No fun! Best wishes for your sister and her children.

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